It has not always been so but in the last few years my wife and I have applied a principle that seems counter-intuitive. The busier we are the more time we take for our relationship.  The more the intensity of our work, the more we work at intimacy. We create times of oasis to address times of crisis.

We have made it a habit to spend a special time away from routine every 6 to 8 weeks.  This may be a weekend, a vacation or special event.  This practice started by having
regular date nights that we did not allow to be interrupted when we were young parents.  

Right now we are in a very busy time of life. Since we are so engaged it is imperative that we spend more quality time away to connect. We have found that when intensity increases and we get intentional about putting the focus on what is essential then we do not have to worry about interrupting intimacy.  If things get really intense we move a
special time away up a week or two. If we keep going this way we may end up retiring and really enjoying it together.


Thoughts to Ponder:

How am I handling the intense times of life?

Is intensity of schedule increasing or decreasing?

Is intimacy increasing or decreasing in our marriage?

What are some small things we can do to move us toward intimacy now?

How are we preparing for the time when life slows down?

If we keep going this way what will we have in common when all of the busyness is gone?



39:6  We are merely moving shadows, and all our busy rushing ends in nothing. We heap up wealth, not knowing who will spend it. (NLT)