The Challenge of Sex
The classic challenge with sex in marriage is the difference in gender expression. There are five areas of intimacy:
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Spiritual
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Physical
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Intellectual
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Emotional
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Social
The woman's expression focuses on emotional bonding & when this is met it progresses to physical response. The man's expression focuses on physicla attraction & when this is expressed there is a progression to emotional bonding.
The wife wants her husband to meet her throughout the day with lots of affection, affirming words, & lasting touch. Whereas the husband wants the wife to meet him in the bedroom with little clothes on, few words, & satisfying sex.
These differences can wither be challenged or celebrated. If they are challenged & we demand sex on our terms, sex actually will cause isolation. If the differences are celebrated & we learn what our partner need & enjoys, the relationship can move to the closest possible intimacy.
If we want sex to be hot in the bedroom, we should start warming it up in the kitchen. Sex does not begin at 10:00pm with a romp in the sack; it begins at 7:00am with sharing a cup of coffee & small talk. Great sex starts with small considerations.
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