Matters

Matters

Matter has two significant meanings according to The Encarta Dictionary.  Each has relevance to relationship and marriage:

1.  Substance-  What matters?  What really matters?  What is the substance of the relationship?  What are priorities?  There is a difference between conviction; what I know I should do and commitment; what I am doing.  What really is the substance of the marriage?  Many marriages get caught up in urgent and miss the essential.  
2. Trouble-  What is the matter?  What are the real issues?  How are they being addressed?  How are they being avoided? Often much energy, time and resource is used to divert attention from addressing the real issues.  There is a focus on diversionary tactics such as busyness and a quest for things.  Avoidance will only last so long, that is why I am seeing marriages of 30 years struggle for survival.  Put off dealing with issues and sooner or later you will end up in deep (matter) trouble in your marriage.